Children, especially siblings fight with each other due to many various reasons. I am pretty sure you will experience your children fighting at some point in time when growing up. Disagreement is a form of child development. Hence, parents should take note on when they should intervene and what they should to keep kids from fighting. Below are 5 tips on how you can stop your child from fighting.
1. Teach ways to discuss solutions/problem solving
The next time you catch your children fighting, try to understand the reason behind why they are fighting. Talk to them about the negative points of fighting and that there are always other ways to solve a problem. Always set rules of what can be done and what cant to solve a problem. For example, let them know that crying and hitting are definitely not going to solve the issues. Allow them to come up with ideas and then let them try it out. You may be surprised by the solutions they think of!
2. Don't ever compare your children
One point some of us do not realise is that we tend to compare our children to each other or other children around them. This can actually result in your child feeling hurt and will even vent his unhappiness on the other child.
3. Praise your children and provide positive reinforcement
The point to note here is to ignore the fighting and show attention only when they are caught doing something kind or helpful. Some children will quickly get the hint that good behaviours gets them more attention than the negative ones.
4. Be a Role Model
Bear in mind that your actions will affect the way your children behave! You need to serve as a role model on how to cooperate and get along with others. Set the example of the behaviour you expect from them at all times
5. Empathize with your children's feelings about each other, but set definite limits on their actions.
Everyone, including children are entitled to their own feelings. These feelings are often shown through our actions. But, everyone should be responsible for the actions that they do. For example, when you find your children fighting, what you can do is empathize with their feelings but let them know what they could do instead. One example is "I understand that when your brother messes with your toys, you get really angry. But, instead of hitting, you can tell him how it makes you feel in words. Hitting someone is not a right thing to do."